Amelia Rose
An advice column. Click here to send anonymous questions.
March 12, 2015:
Dear Amelia Rose,
What advice do you have for someone who is usually the person giving advice?
-Giver; Not Taker
Dear Giver; Not Taker,
Trying to help others is a lot of work and you have to be fully committed and in a good mental state yourself. That’s something I was told last year when I told people that I wanted to become a therapist.
Take care of yourself. Get enough sleep, eat healthy foods and drink enough water, exercise, and keep your grades at a place that you want them to be. Keep stress out of your life and take time to breathe. Focus on yourself for a while, even if it’s only for an hour because at the end of the day, you are only going to have yourself.
I understand that you want to or like to help people, which is amazing, and don’t let me discourage you from doing so, but sometimes even the people who help everyone have their own problems that come into their life. If you need help, you shouldn’t feel like you can’t go to someone because you feel like a burden. You need to have helpers sometimes, like the people who lean on your shoulder for advice.
Just remember, don’t lose yourself in the process of helping others.
Sincerely,
Amelia
March 4, 2015:
Dear Amelia Rose,
How do I eat chicken?
-Chicken Eater
Dear Chicken Eater,
Here is a hack on how to eat chicken wings “the correct way”:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=eMHwsJKj1MA
Enjoy!
Sincerely,
Amelia
February 25, 2015:
Dear Amelia Rose:
How do I make someone get over me?
-Get Over Me
Dear Get Over Me,
There are two rules about relationships everyone should know:
1. DO NOT REMAIN FRIENDS! (Unless the breakup occurred because one’s parents didn’t accept it or you tried to have a romantic connection and there wasn’t one.)
2. You cannot make people get over you.
For your specific question, I am going to concentrate on rule number 2.
If you have not told the person your feelings, that you do not like them in that way, I would start with that and be very direct.
If you have already done that, it could be because sometimes people become blind when they are “in their feelings.” You can’t always expect for people to understand your actions. The saying that “actions speak louder than words” isn’t always correct. Some people need to be told straightforward how you feel and cannot guess by your actions. Don’t get me wrong, some actions speak the truth. For example, if you walk down the hall in school and you ignore them when they say ‘hi,” you stop texting them as much as you used to, or you don’t hang out with a person anymore, most likely, they will get the memo. But in your case, it seems like that’s not happening.
If they are still on your back, ignoring them will be your best option. Sooner or later, they or their friends will understand what is happening and will understand that “it’s time to give up.”
If these suggestions don’t work, I would advise you go to an adult you trust and tell them about the situation. Having someone else talk to the person may give the person the support they need to move on.
Sincerely,
Amelia
An advice column. Click here to send anonymous questions.
March 12, 2015:
Dear Amelia Rose,
What advice do you have for someone who is usually the person giving advice?
-Giver; Not Taker
Dear Giver; Not Taker,
Trying to help others is a lot of work and you have to be fully committed and in a good mental state yourself. That’s something I was told last year when I told people that I wanted to become a therapist.
Take care of yourself. Get enough sleep, eat healthy foods and drink enough water, exercise, and keep your grades at a place that you want them to be. Keep stress out of your life and take time to breathe. Focus on yourself for a while, even if it’s only for an hour because at the end of the day, you are only going to have yourself.
I understand that you want to or like to help people, which is amazing, and don’t let me discourage you from doing so, but sometimes even the people who help everyone have their own problems that come into their life. If you need help, you shouldn’t feel like you can’t go to someone because you feel like a burden. You need to have helpers sometimes, like the people who lean on your shoulder for advice.
Just remember, don’t lose yourself in the process of helping others.
Sincerely,
Amelia
March 4, 2015:
Dear Amelia Rose,
How do I eat chicken?
-Chicken Eater
Dear Chicken Eater,
Here is a hack on how to eat chicken wings “the correct way”:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=eMHwsJKj1MA
Enjoy!
Sincerely,
Amelia
February 25, 2015:
Dear Amelia Rose:
How do I make someone get over me?
-Get Over Me
Dear Get Over Me,
There are two rules about relationships everyone should know:
1. DO NOT REMAIN FRIENDS! (Unless the breakup occurred because one’s parents didn’t accept it or you tried to have a romantic connection and there wasn’t one.)
2. You cannot make people get over you.
For your specific question, I am going to concentrate on rule number 2.
If you have not told the person your feelings, that you do not like them in that way, I would start with that and be very direct.
If you have already done that, it could be because sometimes people become blind when they are “in their feelings.” You can’t always expect for people to understand your actions. The saying that “actions speak louder than words” isn’t always correct. Some people need to be told straightforward how you feel and cannot guess by your actions. Don’t get me wrong, some actions speak the truth. For example, if you walk down the hall in school and you ignore them when they say ‘hi,” you stop texting them as much as you used to, or you don’t hang out with a person anymore, most likely, they will get the memo. But in your case, it seems like that’s not happening.
If they are still on your back, ignoring them will be your best option. Sooner or later, they or their friends will understand what is happening and will understand that “it’s time to give up.”
If these suggestions don’t work, I would advise you go to an adult you trust and tell them about the situation. Having someone else talk to the person may give the person the support they need to move on.
Sincerely,
Amelia
